I don’t agree with everything Schulman writes but there’s some good stuff here. Her main ideas are helpful: we as a society overstate harm. We need to talk to each other instead of immediately shunning everyone. We need to stop framing everything so that we’re the victims who did nothing wrong and they’re the abusers who need to be canceled. Some things in this book are problematic (this might swing too far in the other direction). And sometimes, it's just not worth maintaining a bad friendship/relationship/whatever. There were also some more personal anecdotes that rubbed me the wrong way (every story she tells she comes off as self-congratulatory). But the book also made me think.