This wasn't exactly a pleasant read - it is definitely uncomfortable - but it's also cathartic, in a way. I never went through this situation, but unfortunately I've encountered too many men who are manipulative like Strane or Henry. I was along for the journey with Vanessa as she starts to realize (?) that lot of the bad behavior in this book was/is normalized - and it's really only in the last few years that more and more people are starting to question it. I also came of age around the same time as Vanessa, so I definitely identified with the pop culture references and appreciated looking at those references again with fresh eyes. Sometimes I wanted to smack Vanessa in the head, but at the same time, I got why she feels and acts the way she does. It's frustrating, but realistic. I think this book will stick in my head for a long time.